No One Understands You and What to Do About It

Achieve authenticity.Have you ever felt youre not getting through to the person youre talking to, or not coming across the way you intend? Youre not alone.Thats the bad news. But there is something we can do about it. Heidi Grant Halvorson, social psychologist and bestselling author, explains why were often misunderstood and how we can fix that.Most of us assume that other people see us as we see ourselves, and that they see us as we truly are. But neither is true. Our everyday interactions are colored by subtle biases that distort how others see usand also shape our perceptions of them.You can learn to clarify the message youre sending once you understand the lenses that shape perception: Trust. Are you friend or foe? Power. How much influence do you have over me? Ego. Do you make me feel insecure?Based on decades of research in psychology and social science, Halvorson explains how these lenses affect our interactionsand how to manage them.Once you understand the science of perception, youll communicate more clearly, send the messages you intend to send, and improve your personal relationships. Youll also become a fairer and more accurate judge of others. Halvorson even offers an evidence-based action plan for repairing a damaged reputation.This book is not about making a good impression, although it will certainly help you do that. Its about coming across as you intend. Its about the authenticity we all strive for.