Choices

'What to do after his affair? Should I stay, or should I go?' If you're asking yourself these questions, it might be time to look at the truth of your relationship. Is it the relationship you want? Or would you be better off alone? Whether you're on the receiving end of betrayal, you're the betrayer, or your relationship is in tatters without infidelity, Choices: How to Mend or End a Broken Relationship will help you decide if it's time to dig deep or ditch. Infidelity and affairs are by far the main reasons couples seek out couples therapy from author Lauren S. Clucas. Like an infidelity workbook for couples, you'll find exercises and questionnaires in Choices that help you get at the truth. Choices is based on the real-life application of concepts straight from the therapist's consult room, offering much more than couples counselling books or marriage counselling books. You'll read about real life examples from couples Clucas has worked with-couples who've worked honestly and courageously through infidelity and other relationship problems. Some have chosen to stay together and others to part ways after an affair. She outlines the steps to healing for both the betrayer and the betrayed. She also looks at trends in sexual utopias and how these couple-sanctioned activities can enhance or threaten a relationship. Author Lauren Clucas introduces you to her personal backstory and relationship experience, which continues as a thread throughout the book. This is followed by a focus on wants and expectations, where you are guided to clarify what you want as your relationship matures.You'll learn about your own bonding patterns, to recognise the role your upbringing plays in today's relationships, how to keep the relationship safe, and establish boundaries. You'll also learn about types of affairs, how to recognise when you or your relationship is at risk from infidelity, and how to work through the aftermath of an affair.The main focus of Choices is the thirteen choices you can make to move your partnership forward, such as trust, tenderness, fighting fair, and listening. These choices are accompanied by exercises and questionnaires that get at the heart of the truth, whatever it is. Whether you decide to mend or end a relationship, Choices will: provide a roadmap to being wanted, and wanting your partnerreveal patterns in relationships that you may not recognizeexplain why partners stray into infidelity, and the steps for both sides to healhow to bring your best adult self into a relationship, using the thirteen choices outlined by ClucasChoices emphasises that your behaviour, rather than your partner's, is what's really in your control and that bringing your best adult self to your relationship gives it the best chance of success.And finally, you'll learn how to find closure when a relationship has ended and that love is not the fire at the start of a relationship but rather the end game-like the final move on a chess board. Choices speaks to being in a good relationship with yourself and acknowledges that while we naturally gravitate towards companionship, going solo can be liberating and fulfilling too.You might decide to stay or you might decide to go. But in any case, it won't be a choice made lightly, and it will be what YOU want.